Hello Friend! Welcome to my blog “Seeking Querencia.” I feel honored that you found me amidst the thousands of beautiful, popular and trendy blogs, of which I am not a member. And, that is fine. Nevertheless, I welcome you here and hope to make you feel at home, if only for a while. “Seeking Querencia” is a personal journey blog and I sell no goods or services. If my blogging classes are correct, that makes little ole me the brand for this blog. If your interest is piqued, and you’d like to know more about me, you can find all the information that you ever want to know right here. I wanted to provide you some background on the site name. Against conventional wisdom from the experts who recommend the choice of an simple name, I went against the grain and chose a name that is both unusual and unfamiliar.
Initially, when I began this blog, I thought of scores of blog names. It was a frustratingly slow process, and I rejected many potential names. One day, I remembered an article that had introduced me to the beautiful word “querencia.” (For those of you unsure of how to pronounce the word, listen here.) Anyway, years earlier, during an unexpected lull in my non-stop litigation practice, I was reading an issue of “Spirituality & Health.” (Now this was only one of the many magazines delivered to my home on a monthly basis, but this was among my favorite. I’d rescued it from my “to read” stack that had become a veritable house of cards, ready to tumble at the least provocation.) My search for the article was fruitless.
As it often happens, when you are not looking for something you find it, so I was delighted when I stumbled upon the lost article. With it, I hoped to give everyone a better sense of why I choose “Seeking Querencia” as my blog name. Yes, it’s a mouthful, but for me it encompasses the feel that I am trying to convey in this blog.
While reading the magazine, I came to an article entitled “Querencia: Discovering Our Place of Stillness and Power. At that time, my life was one of constant frenzy, upheaval, stress, and my fibromyalgia pain was increasing to levels beyond which my medications were able to manage. Still, I never took the time to pause. The title spoke to me.
As I began to read the article, I was drawn in like a moth to a flame. I identified with it immediately. I desperately wanted to discover my place of stillness and it appeared that this “querencia” could help me do so.
The first sentence of the article began: “In bullfighting there is an interesting parallel to the pause as a refuge and renewal.” I couldn’t have been more surprised if the author used pig farming as a parallel to the emotional states that I sought to cultivate. Impatient sort that I am, I thought, “What the heck does a bull have to do with anything? Yet, I read on.
“It is believed that in the midst of a fight, a bull can find his own area of safety in the arena. There he can reclaim his strength and power. This place and inner state are called his querencia. As long as the bull remains enraged and reactive, the matador is in charge. Yet when he finds querencia, he gathers his strength and loses his fear. From the matador’s perspective, at this point, the bull is truly dangerous, for he has tapped into his power.” ~Tara Brach, Ph.D.
One source has described the word “querencia” as “a place where one feels secure, _’a place from which one’s strength of character is drawn.’‘A place in which we know exactly who we are. The place from which we speak our deepest beliefs.’” It can only be found in your inner world, that place where most of us travel to infrequently, if at all. In this piece, the author elaborates that “[i]n Spanish, querencia describes the place for which one’s heart yearns; the place where one feels safe, the place from which one’s strength of character is drawn. The word itself comes from the verb querer, which means to desire, to want. Querencia is a place of ease and paradoxically (once we’ve landed there), of freedom from wanting.”
I choose “Seeking Querencia” because it describes, in a nutshell, the direction of my spiritual journey, my longing, as well as how I wish to interact with the world. The word “querencia” serves as a constant reminder of that which I seek to reclaim — inner peace, stillness and tranquility. I realize that there are shorter and far easier to pronounce words that I could have, probably should have, chosen, but after considering many alternatives, I repeatedly returned to “querencia.” It describes, like no other, the purpose of this blog and complements my current life intentions. I hope that you now understand the thought process behind my choice of “Seeking Querencia” for my blog, and perhaps, even like it. In any event. it might encourage you to seek your own querencia, in a manner that is right for you.
With that said, I am off to make some inroads towards seeking querencia. I mean, if a bull can do it. . . .
Warmest Blessings, Lydia