Life Choices

Lately, I’ve been thinking back over my  life’s hits and misses. If you are anything like me, you loathe making mistakes with a passion. I find myself reliving past mistakes, as if in the reliving, I could change the outcome.  The thing is, after years of trying to fight my mistakes, I’ve come to believe that I am fighting a losing battle. Why? Because we are meant to make mistakes.  The important thing to consider regarding our mistakes, is not that we make them, because it is an inevitable certainty that we will make them and others.  No, as it is with most of life circumstances, the crucial factor is our reaction to the mistake. What do we take away from it? Hopefully, we learn enough through the making of the mistake, to avoid repeating it.

More importantly, we’ve heard countless times that life is not intended to be perfect, with perfect choices, answers and circumstances. It’s not like that precisely because the truth is that life is a risk. Of course, there is one sure fire way to avoid making another mistake – – inaction. Yet, what type of life would that bring? Every time that we choose, we take a risk that our choice my lead us down an unintended path. Sometimes that path can lead us astray and we realize that we’ve made the wrong decision. At other times, the path, while unintended, leads us down a road that opens us to new experiences and excitements– ones that had we chosen otherwise, we’d never encounter. The thing is not only that we live through our choices; we live because of our choices. By taking the risk, we say “yes” to life and “no” to inaction, the safe choice.

So given all the mistakes that I’ve made in my life, I cannot be accused of hewing to safe choices. No, all the cringe-worthy lapses in judgment, or some would argue, the total absence of judgment, are all mine- good and bad. When I am being rational and clear-headed, I view them as part of a life well-lived, instead of agonizing about the choices that I can’t change.

Your Future Depends On You

Optimism, Floor TwoImage by m kasahara via Flickr
Years ago, I was taking one of my many yoga classes. There was one class that I only attended once, but I took away a jewel that has been with me ever since. At the end of the class, the instructors read us a passage from “Opening Doors Within: 365 Meditations from Findhorn, by Eileen Caddy.  I can’t quote the passage for that particular day, but the warm, moving feelings that it stirred within me, well, I can still remember to this day.  
After class that day, I took my dogged determination on a mission to locate the book.  Based on my (very poor) recollection, I believe that the book was out of print but I still managed to find a copy. I  like it so much that I thought that I’d share today’s passage with you. I hope that it  inspires you to take that risk you’ve been putting off, leave that past behind to enjoy the fruits of this beautiful day or strike up a conversation with that nameless person sitting beside you on the bus every day. Who knows what good things awaits you?

August 9

Always take the optimistic outlook over everything, and banish all gloom and negativity. You are surrounded by many wonderful people, things, and experiences in life. Why not concentrate on them and give thanks for them, letting go and releasing all that is unpleasant, unhappy or difficult? By your attitude and outlook you draw to you the very best or the very worst in life. Therefore, if you are blaming your circumstances, life or people for your misfortunes, look within to see what you can do to change your attitude. As you start doing it, little by little you will find changes taking place, and you will begin to realise how mightily blessed you are and how truly wonderful life is. What a joy and a privilege it is to be alive, to be where you are, doing what you are doing, surrounded by so many wonderful things and people! Start right now looking for them. They are right there, so you will not have to look very far.

I don’t receive a penny for saying this but Eileen Cady published a 25th Anniversary edition of the book and you can find it at Amazon,, or perhaps local bookstore.  Blessings,

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