One day during an all too rare telephone call with my son J. (he is the oldest of my 3 children), he interrupted our conversation momentarily to speak to someone else. Now, this is one of my pet peeves, so for a few moments, I sat there seething. In spite of that, the rational part of me listened quietly to his brief conversation, and at its close, heard him thanking someone. What caused me pause was that instead of saying the customary “thank you,” J. said “I appreciate you, man.” Such a brief statement, but its’ power immediately warmed my heart and got me thinking.
“Thank you” is defined as ‘expressing gratitude or thanks,’ whereas, “appreciate,” ‘to value or regard highly; place a high estimate on.’ How many times a day do we mindlessly utter ‘thank you’ or ‘thanks‘ to someone? Think about it–lots! Just for a day or two, how about setting an intention to say “I appreciate you,” in place of “thank you” or “thanks” to the barista at the coffee shop or cafe, a colleague at work, the teller at the bank drive-thru, the cashier at the grocery store or any other number of people that you come in contact. By doing so, you are going beyond a simple thank you, to saying “I value you and what you do. It’s the small things that mean so much. Try it–what have you got to lose?
Lest I forget, J. I truly appreciate you. Blessings all,
“You know they straightened out the Mississippi River in places, to make room for houses and livable acreage. Occasionally the river floods these places. “Floods” is the word they use, but in fact, it is not flooding, it is remembering. Remembering where it used to be. All water has a perfect memory and is like that: remembering where it was.” ~Toni Morrison
I am a child of New Orleans. One may leave New Orleans, but the city never leaves you. It is in my heart forever. Since Hurricane Katrina, I’ve had a hate/hate relationship with the mighty Mississippi. I discovered and found some solace in the above quote. As Ms. Morrison opines that a river “remembers,” instead as we commonly think “floods.” I find this ‘remembering’ akin to a universal human theme, understood by each and every one of us–the desire, in fact, the need, to come home. Although, this does little to mollify unwitting flood victims everywhere, it may provide an explanation of sorts with which to identify. Blessings.
We should never try to follow another’s path for that is his way, not yours. Where the path is found, you have nothing to do but fold your arms and the tide will carry you to freedom. Therefore when you find it, never swerve from it. Your way is the best for you, but that is no sign it is the best for another. ~Swami Vivekananda
Ever find yourself feeling lonely, groundless, frustrated and directionless? Inevitably, you look around and see someone who appears to be your exact opposite: calm, self-assured, and confident of his or her place in the world. STOP. Don’t even go there! Their path is not yours and will undoubtedly lead you astray. Each of us has our own path to follow and yours is as unique to you as your DNA. Stop your minds frenetic searching and practice clam refection. Eventually, your path will become apparent to you. Forge your own path and let others follow you. Blessings.
I think that in all fairness, it is important that I get some things out of the way. I rarely disclose this to anyone but I think that each person who takes his or her time to sign up for this blog, deserves to know this up front. I have health issues that make it impossible for me to spend long periods of time typing on the computer. When I throw caution to the wind, I add to my pain level and suffer through it for days at a time. Some things are worth the pain, but I have made an intention to stop ignoring messages that my body is trying to send. Anyway, I am researching other ways that might allow me to spend more time on my computer without adding to my pain. Until then, it is unlikely that I can post every day. Please understand that this does not indicate a lack of desire or dedication to this blog. I have no shortage of either and am determined to see it succeed. Blessings to all.