As 2019 comes to an end, it is common for us to ruminate over the past year to identify, and laud our accomplishments. However, in most cases, this exercise also leads us to become preoccupied with, not the accomplishments, but, all of the ways that we fall short of our intentions.
Our tendency is to focus on notable accomplishments, that we deem to be successful. Yet, what about the seemingly insignificant acts that we overlook. For instance, what about the kind words offered to a stranger in need, the “What can I do for you?” to a friend who is grieving a loss, the handwritten letter to surprise a long lost friend, the donation of time or money to an organization that provides support to worthy causes, the offer to feed the hungry over the holidays, the invitation to someone without a family to celebrate the holidays with you, the humanitarian acts that serve to better the world, and countless others.
One can tell more about a person by their small acts of kindness that may go unnoticed. Such seemingly innocuous acts go to the core of our basic nature, and say more about us than the societal signs of success. Success is measured by our inner qualities and values, and not by the fleeting signs of subjective achievement.
As 2019 comes to an end, we tend to ruminate on all that we have accomplished throughout the year. All too often, we also tend to concern ourselves with all that we haven’t done, minimizing the accomplishments, both big and small.
Take the time to focus less on monetary, professional, or obvious successes, and more on those actions that you took to make the world a better place. It could come in the form of a much needed smile to a stranger, volunteering your time or donating to a worthy cause, praying for one who needs it, providing a shoulder to cry on, showing compassion where needed., and so much more.
All of these things form one’s character, and make them who they are. It is what makes life worth living — doing whatever you can to make your corner of the world a better place in which to live in. This is success.
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.
— Virginia Satir
Celebrate and revel in your uniqueness and share it with the world. You have been blessed with gifts and you and only you can share them with the world.